Funerals Advice For a Loved One's Funeral

Coping with death

Posted by funerals on Jul 28th, 2010 in Dealing with the loss | 0 comments

It can make the difference between long days of depression and a manageable lifestyle in the days and years ahead.

Cry For Your Loss
Don’t buy into the myth, especially if you’re a guy, that you have to act a certain way. It is natural to cry. And, listen to this: it is necessary to cry.

There’s an old expression that says that crying is pain leaving the body. There’s a lot of truth to that.

Talk About Your Loved One
There’s no lonelier feeling than the one in the pit of your stomach about a month after the funeral. It seems like that loved one is still very much in your life, tugging at your heart strings daily. But, it also seems like the rest of the world has gone on with the daily routine.

Helping a Friend Cope with Death of a Loved One
A friend has lost a loved one and is immersed in grief. If you’d like to help but aren’t sure what to do this will help.
Find someone, a dear friend, who is comfortable with the conversation and talk about that person. It’s a necessary part of the grieving process. You want everyone to know the quirks of dear old dad and it’s really more for you than it is for them.

Honor the Memory of the Deceased
The dates on the calendar are tough. Birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, they all hurt, especially the first time around.

Especially during the first year, find a way to make them (or their memory) part of those special days. Eat at their favorite restaurant, buy a gift for a family member in their honor, do something that sparks an old memory.

Allow for Time to Heal
The frown won’t change in a second. It will take time. At first, when you remember your loved one, it’s going to hurt. Honoring them will help because it will help you feel like the memory is alive, even when the person is not.

At some later date, you will remember them with a smile and a fond memory. That happens at a different time for everyone.

Your time will come. But don’t try to rush it.

Think About Their Wishes
What would they want you to do? They probably wouldn’t want you sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. This will be hard in the beginning. But, as time begins to heal, think of ways to live your life that will honor the loved one. Being the best you can be, knowing that they are counting on you to do that will help. You can go on with your life and bring them with you. That’s what they’d want.